Evolving Your Life
- My Reason for Sharing this
- Tools and Resources for Integration
- Updating our reality framework
- Spiral Dynamics of the evolution of consciousness
Discover The Kingdom Within!
My Story
I was a Montessori teacher for 5 years before I decided to ambitiously pursue aviation. I flew 200+ hours in an airplane, studied thousands of hours, and learned to speak with ATC and other pilots while flying a plane. My soft-hearted, empathic, inquisitive, contemplative, and caring nature made the eventual deaths in my flight school too much for me, yet I stubbornly persisted until I became frail and brittle, with achy joints and a delicate psyche. It was difficult to quit, but I finally did, after I failed my instrument checkride. I had no more energy to continue trying to knock down the wall before me. I spoke with my doctor about my symptoms (night terrors, achy joints, “depression and anxiety”, cold, tremors, uncontrollable tears) and a bloodwork diagnosed me with Hashimoto’s disease, an autoimmune hypothyroid condition, wherein the symptoms are potentially endless and therefore usually misdiagnosed. That’s 20 million people (6%) in the USA alone who are existing with mysterious symptoms, which upon being diagnosed are only given a thyroid medication by their doctor, often without being directed towards functional medicine practices. A friend referred me to a book, the Hashimoto’s protocol, by Isabella Wentz and in a disciplined and method manner utilizing her detoxification, destressing, and gut restoration protocol, my symptoms faded, and my bloodwork showed that I had recovered from a supposedly incurable condition. If you or somebody you love has been recently diagnosed, please read more on my page: Health Recovery Protocol.
Since my aspirations as a flight instructor metaphorically crashed and burned, I have been working various odd jobs (as you have perhaps surmised from my menu of services above!) Because of my background in psychology, education, and my deep interest in spiritual practices and realization, I have started to collaborate with facilitators, musicians, growers, and healers to support our network through Transformational Life Coaching and Integration Coaching. You may click those links to read more about how it’s outlined.
My Gift To You
Creating new habits, routines, and rituals that shape our daily lives has a profound impact on the way our lives unfold, as well as our moment-to-moment wellness. How do we create new habits? There are plenty of books written on the subject, but reading is not the habit we are trying to implement. With your newfound awareness, identify the triggers to a need for a habit, implement new cues for a replacement habit or something positive, and gradually reinforce positive behaviors through repetition and reward. Regularly reflecting on the obstacles that got in your way will help us tailor our environments to make new habit acquisition natural! Routines are practical and functional, and provide structure, organization, and efficiency to our daily live, helping us establish habits, manage time effectively, and accomplish tasks consistently. Rituals are often more intuitive and emotionally charged compared to routines, and help us connect with our values, beliefs, and emotions on a deeper level. Successfully integrate your new perspective into a gradual shift into a new lifestyle, probably for the good of everybody around you and earth’s consciousness as a whole.
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Fill your Moments with Wisdom
Our minds are a conglomeration of all the things we’ve heard in our life. They keep going like a wheel, round and round. Once we attain a quiet space and neuroplasticity, it’s crucial for progress to weed the garden of your mind and plant good seeds. Here are a few suggestions for how to fill your mind.
Samaneri Jayasara is a dedicated practitioner and teacher of mindfulness and meditation. Ordained as a samaneri, a female novice monk, in the Theravada Buddhist tradition. She has recordings of the wisdom of saints and sages throughout history and publishes them under “Wisdom of the Masters,” a collection of profound insights and practical guidance from spiritual luminaries across different traditions and cultures. Samaneri Jayasara’s audio recordings serve as a valuable resource for anyone seeking to fill their mind with the wisdom of the ages.
Paramahansa Yogananda, along with a few other notable figures, brought yoga to American consciousness in the early 1900s. After speaking to thousands of people across the nation, and starting multiple Temples for fellowship and monastic pursuits, he then turned to writing and created a lasting legacy: a guide for scientific meditation. Scientific, meaning that the methods have been used for thousands of years, and the methods he teaches are the “highway to the infinite.” It’s not for everybody, because of its devotional and disciplined elements. But for those of us who are able to be reverent, consistent, and disciplined, it’s a wonderfully rewarding practice immediately upon beginning. After perhaps reading/watching Autobiography of a Yogi, you can consider signing up for the lessons, and implementing the practice into your daily life. The aim is to find God and Self, through noticing inner peace, light, and wisdom, through focused concentration, visualization, affirmation, prayer, lifestyle and diet modifications, and mindfulness. By enrolling in the Self-Realization Fellowship’s basic lessons for a one-time payment of $100, you receive bi-monthly lessons of the once secret Kriya yoga, and dabble (with the basic lessons) in the guru-disciple relationship. After the basic lessons, you are then invited to 5 more lessons and official Kriya Yoga initiation to continue the journey throughout the rest of your life if you so persist.
Read The Spirit Book, it’s available as a free PDF here. Evie PDF reader can be downloaded and read out loud to you, albeit clunkier than Audible! Although long, the information in the book is incredibly valuable and can put your mind at ease if you’re suffering about mystical questions. For some background, Allan Kardec, originally named Hippolyte Léon Denizard Rivail, was a French educator and intellectual with a background in science and philosophy. He became interested in spiritual phenomena after witnessing séances and the phenomenon of “table-turning” (tables purportedly moving and communicating messages from spirits).
Intrigued by these experiences, Kardec began systematically studying spiritual communication. He compiled questions and posed them to various mediums around the world around 1855, when the primary forms of transportation were horse-drawn carriages, steam trains, ships and steamboats, and walking!”The Spirits’ Book” was then published in 1857 and is a series of questions that received consistent answers from mediums around the world, and formed the basis of understanding of the spirit world. Kardec meticulously organized these responses into a coherent doctrine, leading to the publication of “The Spirits’ Book.” Through his systematic and analytical approach, Kardec aimed to bridge the gap between spirituality and science, offering a framework for understanding the spiritual dimensions of existence and their implications for human life.
Updating the Framework of Reality
How do we understand reality after we have seen something radically different? If you’ve ever had a psychedelic, and maybe experienced an elevated or expanded consciousness for 15 minutes to several hours, you’ll understand the question. Coming back from nondual consciousness can be difficult, when none of your original situations have resolved themselves! How shocking, to be beyond life & death, beyond time & space, and then to come back into this unreal existence. Now what? How can we update our understanding of reality now?
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Be open-minded and receptive to the new perspective. Stay curious and willing to explore unfamiliar territory. Try letting go of needing answers. You may have more questions now, and that’s ok! Inquiry is vital. Don’t grasp for answers. Mind your energy! When skepticism and doubt arise, notice the nature of that thought-form and from whence it arose, and watch it dissipate and notice and focus on the peace and calm between those bouts of anxiety and grasping. Simply notice. The heightened awareness enables us to recognize when we are falling into old patterns and empowers us to make conscious choices. It’s okay that you’re falling back into the old ego-pattern. Awareness of them is a great start. Be compassionate to yourself, as you would to your friend..
Simultaneously, it is important to engage in critical thinking and discernment regarding new ideas and narratives. Everything may seem very exciting to you, like a door you didn’t now exists just opened up. You may want to tell everybody about it, or find other people who also share similar views. There will be charlatans and egomaniacs out there, making money and feeding their self-esteem monster. Critical thinking needs to extend to incoming information and political/historical narratives. With a brief window of neuroplasticity, be very careful to not jump onto any radical belief systems (read my post on how to avoid irrational conspiracy theories and misinformation campaigns).
Try not to get too excited about your new paradigm. Meditate and practice self-reflection. Introspection is looking within and asking yourself what is really true? Are your thoughts, memories, and ideas really true? Is it true if somebody else says it, or does it simply validate our shared strange experience? Does this narrative make me simply feel stable in a new myth that replaces the old, outdated one? Thus, we examine our existing beliefs and thought patterns neutrally. Noticing assumptions and biases, we challenge old (automatically reappearing) paradigms and make room for growth into the not-yet-known.
Ikigai is a Japanese concept which roughly translates to “a reason for being,” Life-Value or Life-Worthiness. It is a framework for finding fulfillment in ones life through identifying ones passion, mission, vocation, and profession. After psychedelic revelation, one may be questioning ones vocation and how time has been spent and the system of things created by oneself for oneself. By inquiring about ikigai, individuals can explore their unique intersection of what they love, what they are good at, what the world needs, and what they can be paid for. Integration involves changing the patterns of your life, which may mean a change in career, friendships, family structures, and lifestyle, and it’s helpful to bring it all back to you, your joys, strengths, values, and passion.
Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is a psychological approach that focuses on the connection between neurological processes, language, and behavioral patterns learned through experience. Co-created by a computer science and psychology student and a linguistic professor, this model explored the link between communication and behavioral patterns. Techniques explored include but are not limited to anchoring, reframing, visualization, parts integration, and meta-modeling. Meta-modeling is a set of language patterns and questions designed to help identify and challenge distortions (misrepresentations, misattributions), deletions (always/never language), and generalizations (everyone/everything) in experiences, thoughts, and beliefs.
Byron Katie’s “Work” is a method of self-inquiry that involves questioning and challenging our thoughts and beliefs to uncover the truth and alleviate suffering. The four basic questions in “The Work” are: Is it true? Can you absolutely know that it’s true? How do you react when you believe that thought? Who would you be without that thought? This process can help individuals gain clarity, overcome limiting beliefs, and find inner peace.
Harness the Power of YOUR creative word!
Language shapes our reality. The words we choose influence not only our thoughts and emotions but also our interactions and relationships. By practicing constructive language, we can cultivate a more positive mentality and outlook on life. This practice, often referred to as using “the creative word,” empowers us to build a brighter, more hopeful existence through our speech.
Replacing negative words with positive alternatives can make a significant difference. For instance, swapping “should” for “could” shifts the tone from obligation to possibility. Using “I” statements helps take ownership of feelings and needs, framing them in a way that reduces blame. Instead of saying, “You make me feel sad,” say, “I feel sad when this happens.”
Focusing on gratitude and affirmations is another powerful tool. Regularly expressing gratitude and using positive affirmations reinforces a positive mindset. For example, replace “I can’t do this” with “I am capable and will find a way.” Additionally, eliminating absolute terms like “always” and “never” helps avoid exaggeration and distortion of reality. Instead, use more accurate terms like “sometimes” or “occasionally.”
Emphasizing solutions over problems is crucial when facing challenges. Instead of dwelling on issues, focus on finding solutions. For instance, replace “This is a problem” with “This is a challenge we can solve.”
With these ideas, we can begin to reshape your internal dialogue, our external communication, our behaviors, our outlook. The results will be our creative power and its ability to illuminate your life and the lives of others, creating a more positive and empowering reality.
Roadblocks to integration
Because of our attachment to familiarity and being creatures of habit, we may have trouble dragging ourselves from our old habits to new habits that support our new perception. Operating out of comfort or security will not liberate us, and we must begin by letting go of attachments. Resistance to change and fear of the unknown can prevent us from letting go of old belief systems and patterns that no longer serve us. We must be courageous and tolerate the unknowing. We must surrender and let go of the future. The ego can be a powerful force that seeks to maintain control and protect us. Overcoming ego identification requires meditation, contemplation, and inquiry, but it is possible that through those means we can maintain our enhanced perception of reality and integrate the new perspective into our daily lives. The smallest habit of meditating in the morning and evening can snowball into other new habits. Being aware of these roadblocks to integration will help us in our self-awareness post-journey as we navigate the habits, comforts, and protective measures engrained within us and our environment.
Spiral Dynamics
Having had a psychedelic experience, your higher self may be pulling you up the ladder of consciousness, and it may feel uncomfortable and scary in its unfamiliarity. Knowing this model I will present to you can put your mind at ease, trusting that you can level up your self and your life. Spiral dynamics is a model for the evolution of consciousness. It was developed by Clare W. Graves, popularized by Don Beck, Christopher Cowan, and later incorporated into Ken Wilbur’s Integral Theory. This can provide a framework for mapping the stages of human development and the progression towards higher levels of consciousness. I have included a picture below, which link to he-who-must-be-attributed. There are videos online that can help explain further.
Each stage of development is characterized by different values, beliefs, and worldviews.
The stages are organized in a spiral-like model, with each stage building upon the previous one, and every other stage mirroring previous stages in some ways. In this way, it may seem like you’re learning the same lesson over and over again, but in actuality, you are learning the lesson deeper with more nuance. As values develop, they influence how we perceive the world and make decisions. Each stage contains a different memetic code, the core values, beliefs, and cultural norms that shape identities and influence behaviors and interactions. 
Growth does not always feel linear. We may revisit old patterns at a higher level of awareness. Through integration work, self-awareness, and the support of others who can help us identify cognitive biases and outdated belief systems, we can break free from old patterns and elevate our consciousness. By embracing change, practicing self-reflection, and cultivating a mindset of continuous growth and learning, we can expand our understanding of reality and experience greater levels of inner peace, fulfillment, and connection with the world around us.
Thank you for your attentiveness while I write everything I can think of regarding integration! I know there’s more to say, and simultaneously there’s nothing to say at all. Please reach out if you would benefit from a compassionate, empathetic sounding board. I am aiming to purify myself beyond current capitalist systems, and because I’m aware of the current economic situation on planet earth, I do not aim to profit on the new psychedelic renaissance, but I am in it and therefore I am pulled to contribute however is natural.